Before I was a Mom -
I slept as late as I wanted and never worried about how late I got into bed. I brushed my hair and my teeth everyday.

Before I was a Mom -
I cleaned my house each day. I never tripped over toys or forgot words to a lullaby. I didn’t worry whether or not my plants were poisonous. I never thought about immunizations.

Before I was a Mom -
I had never been puked on – Pooped on – Spit on – Chewed on, or Peed on. I had complete control of my mind and My thoughts. I slept all night.

Before I was a Mom -
I never held down a screaming child so that doctors could do tests…or give shots. I never looked into teary eyes and cried. I never got gloriously happy over a simple grin. I never sat up late hours at night watching a baby sleep.

Before I was a Mom -
I never held a sleeping baby just because I didn’t want to put it down. I never felt my heart break into a million pieces when I couldn’t stop the hurt. I never knew that something so small could affect my life
so much. I never knew that I could love someone so much. I never knew I would love being a Mom.

Before I was a Mom -
I didn’t know the feeling of having my heart outside my body. I didn’t know how special it could feel to feed a hungry baby. I didn’t know that bond between a mother and her child. I didn’t know that something so small could make me feel so important.

Before I was a Mom -
I had never gotten up in the middle of the night every 10 minutes to make sure all was okay. I had never known The warmth, The joy, The love, The heartache, The wonderment or the satisfaction of being a Mom. I didn’t know I was capable of feeling so much before I was a Mom.

Happy Mother’s Day!

Melissa and the GiftED team

We’re told quite often to “live with passion” but how many of us can say we actually put this mantra into practise!? A lot of the time we get so caught up in the daily grind that we end up naturally taking some things for granted. And as we get older, it becomes even harder to ‘maintain’ feelings of passion as initial excitements wear away.

But it doesn’t have to be that way! Although life can’t always be like the movies, it can be enjoyable, fulfilling, and inspiring. People that live with passion find the life that they would like to lead and make it theirs!

So how does all this relate to parenting? Well, you’re not the only one who will benefit from a little passion in your life. When you are able to live with passion yourself, it can make you a better parent. In fact, living with passion may just be the BEST thing you can do for your kids.

Why? Energy is contagious! Every time your kids see you enjoying life, living in the moment, and laughing, they will take notice, and your zest for life will become theirs. Instead of teaching them how to enjoy life with your words, why not show them with your actions? Acting out a passionate life, even if it feels strange at first, is the best way to impress upon your children one of life’s most valuable lessons – that life is what you make of it.

Your children will thank you for it!

1. Find your passion – or try something new! If you had trouble answering the question at the beginning of this article, it might be that you haven’t actually found your passion. That’s okay – there’s so much out there to try. If you don’t feel passionate about anything, why not go for something new and let yourself be surprised!

2. Do what you’re passionate about. Don’t just tell your children what you love to do – SHOW them. Spend time together doing what you love, and leave your kids with the impression that they should take the time to do what they really enjoy.

3. Do what your kids are passionate about. Ask your kids what they love to do – you might be surprised at the answer. Then, help your child foster a sense of enthusiasm by supporting her when she wants to do that thing. You have tremendous power to inspire and excite your child!

4. Lose the schedule! People who live in the moment aren’t restricted by time: schedules, routines, tasks that need to be done. They find the time to get done everything they need to do and still have time leftover. If you are always concerned with what you need to do and where you need to go next, you miss out on the precious moments unfolding before your eyes. Spending time with your child and inspiring her to lead a life of fullness cannot be penciled in to your day planner.

5. Learn from others who are passionate. The secret to success is passion. People who feel involved and excited about what they are doing are more likely to naturally attract what they want. It is this drive that enables them to lead a full life and still manage to accomplish everything they would like to accomplish. When you interact with someone who is totally immersed in what they are doing, you’ll notice a fundamental difference in the energy they put out.

Although it may sound like a cliché, living with passion is one of the most important things you can do for yourself and for your children. What do you want your children to learn from you? Do you want them to see you going through the motions of life without really engaging? Or do you want them to see you soaking up every moment and enjoying a life full to the brim?

Remember, they learn about life and how to be in the world from us, their parents, so what better gift for them than to be part of us living out fulfilling, passionate lives?

Hold on, we’re kidding, obviously! Carrying around a little human being is no bed of roses! Pregnancy takes its toll physically, as expectant mothers have to share their energy. But that’s not the only reason for mommies to take it easy – believe it or not the emotions that an expectant mother experiences during pregnancy can actually change her baby’s brain chemistry.

Good to know – with pregnancy being the emotional roller coaster that it is –that staying calm, cool, and collected can help you give birth to an emotionally grounded baby. The natural neurotransmitters and hormones present in your blood stream are responsible for this dependent relationship; when you experience stress or depression certain chemicals are released. A developing fetus is affected by these changes; newborns of mothers who are depressed or anxious are more likely to exhibit different levels of certain chemicals as compared to newborns from non-depressed mothers.

Let’s face it though, with so many preparations to make before the baby arrives, we think that it’s important not to overburden mothers with too many does and don’ts. It’s enough for an expectant mother to focus on staying sane, let alone trying to keep her hormone-driven emotions in check. The most we can ask of any mommy-to-be is that she tries to be herself and enjoy her pregnancy as much as possible.

But, keep in mind that if you stop feeling like yourself at any point during your pregnancy, it’s a sign of a problem. Ante-natal depression is more common than you might think, affecting 1 in 10 women during pregnancy. Although every expectant mother will experience one or more of the following symptoms over the course of her pregnancy, when symptoms persist for over two weeks there may be a problem. If you or someone you know who is expecting has experienced insomnia, extreme changes in appetite, agoraphobia, feelings of isolation/loneliness, chronic anxiety/stress, irritability, irrational thoughts, paranoia, symptoms of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), or a loss of interest in normal activities and routines, it may be time to consult a physician.  Not only for the health of the mother, but because the baby’s brain is also being affected by her sadness.

So what’s the best thing you can do for an expectant mother an her baby?  Make her smile!  Pop in a funny movie, learn some new jokes or take her to a comedy show – it will help her relax and be a welcome boost to her baby’s brain!

The other day we stumbled upon an interesting article that really hit home how powerful good teaching can be. Think back to your own experience in grade school – even if you don’t remember much, you can probably remember your favorite teacher. Was it someone that respected you, had confidence in your abilities, and challenged you to learn? Today, these qualities seem to have been all but forgotten by educators who are spread too thin, concerning themselves with covering the curriculum they’ve been given and failing to see students as individuals.
With student needs and varied teaching methods off the table, one has to wonder: are children being inspired out of learning? It’s this very issue that the article addresses.

Think about it – have you ever taken a class where you loved the subject matter, but couldn’t get excited about it because of a dull teacher? So often it’s the delivery of the material that motivates a person to learn. A student who is excited about a topic of study will be more likely to retain information and even seek out the answers to their own questions.

So, how can teachers (and parents) inspire this kind of interest?

If anyone can ‘teach how to teach’ it’s a good teacher. The article compiles a list of ten common traits of good teachers, based on essays written by over 150 Distinguished Teaching Award winners from the University of California at Berkeley. Here’s our top five:

• 1. The teacher’s main task is to guide students through the learning process, not to dispense information.
• 2. Learning is a “messy” process, and the search for truth and knowledge is open-ended.
• 3. Good teachers love their subject matter.
• 4. Good teachers do not see teaching as separate from other activities; rather, they see their lives as remarkably integrated.

And, finally:

• 5. Good teachers are rarely satisfied with their teaching. They constantly evaluate and modify what they do.

This last point in particular is surprising; it’s an important reminder that even teaching ‘experts’ strive for self-improvement. As parents and caregivers, we too need to remember that teaching is something of a journey rather than a destination.

To read the rest of the report, click here:

http://elearning4india.wordpress.com/2009/03/25/teaching-habits-that-inspire-you-out-of-learning/

Where does your teaching stand? Spread the learning inspiration by sharing your best teaching tips!

You’ve probably already heard experts from all around the world hailing yoga for its physiological benefits: increases in flexibility, blood pressure stabilization, weight loss, and increases in energy levels, and its psychological benefits: improved concentration and focus, memory enhancement, mental clarity, and emotional regulation. And the list goes on – studies have even found that those who practice yoga are generally more satisfied with their lives and happier overall.

So, with all the fuss about yoga shouldn’t we be encouraging our kids to practice yoga, too?

Yoga sessions, tailored for kids and families, are offered at studios all over the country. But teachers have to approach classes with a little more creativity and a lot more patience! The regular physical fitness component of yoga is replaced with imaginative play, drawing, games, and songs to keep kids interested. And kids aren’t required to hold poses for long periods of time. (Don’t you wish you could do the same?)

The benefits of doing yoga may be even more profound for kids as they develop the life skills they need to be happy, active, and productive. Yoga has been shown to have an effect on the development of valuable social skills and self-esteem. And, it can help to regulate mood – easing the experience for children afflicted with ADD/ADHD, autism, and behavioral problems. A little downward dog can also help kids thrive in the classroom, through improved memory, concentration, and learning ability. These benefits are all in addition to one other huge plus – a little yoga can tear kids away from video games and television, helping them to feel physically healthy and inspiring them to stay active.

School teachers are even jumping on board with kid-friendly yoga sessions, if only for the sole reason that it makes their jobs a lot easier. Innovative educators are trying to integrate yoga into the physical education curriculum in order to expose kids to a method they can use to not only relieve stress and anxiety, but focus their seemingly boundless energy.

Of course, it’s all fine and nice to hear adults praising yoga – but what do kids who have tried yoga say? It all depends on the teacher in this case. Yoga teachers have to learn to give up their agendas and their preconceived notions of how yoga should be, because a child’s attention cannot be held by a series of predetermined poses. If the teacher is willing to take an interdisciplinary approach – that is, integrating different ways of learning to inspire children – then the classes are more likely to be a hit with kids.

If you’re already practicing yoga, why not consider including your kids in your hobby? You might be surprised how much you can learn from your kids while practicing yoga – not only will it test the limits of your own patience, but you’ll also be forced to take a less serious approach! Even if it’s a challenge, you’ll be benefitting from sharing the energy that your kids will bring to yoga.

Is your kid a yoga wonder? Share your experiences with us! Does “kid-yoga” really work? More importantly -do your kids enjoy it?

Is your child sugar sensitive?

• Does he ask for sweet foods when he is hungry?
• Does he always choose  sweet food or drink if given a choice?
• Does your child have unexpected meltdowns that end in tantrums or tears – especially when hungry?

When children act out, if you give them something sweet and they immediately settle down then you can probably bet they are sugar sensitive.

What does sugar do to kids?  Little bodies don’t process sugar the same way as grown up bodies.  Mood swings, inability to concentrate and temper tantrums can be the affects of too much sugar in a child’s diet.

When we eat carbohydrates such as sugars and starches, our blood sugar rises and our bodies release insulin. Insulin helps fuel the body, but when children are sugar sensitive, this careful balance is disturbed.  Their blood sugar rises more quickly and reaches higher levels than normal.  As a result, a larger amount of insulin is released. This creates that “Sugar High” and subsequently leads to a sugar crash. Which might be familiar to you as exhaustion,  spaciness, irritability or meltdown.  

One brain chemical that is affected by sugar is serotonin.  We often think of serotonin as the brain soother. Serotonin gives us the feeling of well-being and peacefulness.  When a child has low serotonin levels, she feels out of control and overwhelmed.  It seems that sugar sensitive children have lower levels of serotonin that other children, which makes it harder for them to find that quiet, peaceful place within.

Some things you can do at home to help change your child’s diet:

• Make sure every meal includes some protein
• Try to feed your child breakfast within 1 hour of her waking
• Serve high-protein snacks like: cottage cheese, almond butter, seeds and nuts
• Replace white flours with whole grains
• Try to avoid buying and serving processed foods

When you do your grocery shopping, stay longer along the perimiter of the supermarket.  Fresh fruits and vegitables, dairy, meats and fish are displayed along the inside walls fo the store.  Processed foods, ‘junk foods’, sodas, and pre-packaged foods are shelved within.  If you avoid food that comes in a box, you’ll go a long way to reducing your child’s processed sugar consumption.

In modest amounts, sugar can have a healthful place in a child’s diet.  But many kids get too much, too often, and many are extra sensitive to the effects of sugar.  We know that sugar rich foods tend to be full of empty calories, so when a child consumes sugar, it displaces the ‘hunger’ for the nutritious food children need.

A recent landmark study of more than 3,000 infants and toddlers found that close to half of seven to eight month old children in the study were already consuming sugar sweetened snacks, sodas and fruit drinks.

By making some changes in diet, you can actually raise beneficial levels of serotonin. This will result in your child feeling and being more in-control, and will enable your child to have a much happier outlook.

Try it for awhile and see what happens.  If your child is sugar sensitive, you and she may be very happy you did!

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Nearly sixty years ago, when psychologists first started investigating how one’s parenting style can affect adolescent health, development, behavior, and even future success, the concept of giving unconditional love was almost radical. In that era, the vast majority of parents operated by the old adage that “children should be seen and not heard.” Extracting good behavior through rewards and punishment was the primary concern, where the ultimate message received by children was that parental love was contingent on their actions.

Today, an abundance of research points to the pitfalls of the love-with-strings attached mentality. A study done at Pennsylvania State University by psychology doctoral candidate Sarah Kollatand her colleagues investigated the relationship between conditional parenting styles and self-esteem. Using a sample of 264 seventh and eighth grade students in an urban center, the researchers identified that children of overly controlling parents were more likely to exhibit contingent self-esteem; that is, their sense of self-worth was based on external experiences such as performance in school and achieving status amongst peers. Adolescents with contingent self-esteem were also found to be more likely to use aggression tactics as a means of maintaining these external measures of their value.

Along a similar vein, a team of researchers led by doctoral candidate Rick Trinkner at the University of New Hampshire recently identified that children raised by authoritarian parents were more likely to misbehave and act disrespectfully towards their parents. Findings from the study suggested that these negative outcomes tended to result from a lack of confidence in their parents’ legitimacy as authority figures, a feeling which becomes ingrained in children who are expected to passively comply with rules without having their own say.

The above findings are reinforced by the results of study done in 2004 from the University of Rochester which identified that college-aged students who received conditional approval from their parents were more likely to harbor negative feelings such as resentment towards their parents. Researchers including Dr. Edward Deci, a prominent psychologist studying motivation, even found that the same adolescents also felt as though they didn’t really have their own sense of choice – their actions were based on what their parents’ expectations for them.

Despite the wealth of information advocating the unconditional approach, recent headlines seem to focus on exactly the opposite. Amy Chuagained widespread attention through her controversial book, Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother, through which she extolled the benefits of a strict Asian upbringing. In her book she states that her two daughters were not allowed to get any grade less than A, to have play dates or sleepovers with friends, to participate in any extra-curricular activities that had not been chosen by her, or to not play the piano or violin. Other popular media figures that champion conditional love, tethered by rewards, include talk show host Dr. Phil and “Supernanny” Jo Frost, both of whom identify love and acceptance as the best ‘rewards’ for a child’s good behavior.

Jim Taylor, an associate professor of clinical psychology at the University of Denver, is also an advocate of conditional parenting. In a Psychology Today blog post titled “Unconditional Love is Bad for Your Kids” he excuses the contingent nature of reward-based parenting by stating that “Most things in life have strings attached and love is no different.” He also goes on to state that parents who deliver consequences such as time-outs aren’t really suspending their love through punishment; in fact they continue to love their children even when they are disappointed with their actions.

While that may be 100% true, the overall point is not whether parents know that they love their children even when they behave badly, but whether children have the ability to realize this. What kind of message are your actions relaying to your children? As parents we should be focused on promoting acceptance, fostering mutual trust, and nurturing a child’s own sense of right and wrong.

Building a sense of acceptance that’s not contingent on predetermined ideal of how a child should behave is no easy task – it requires a huge amount of patience – but think of your child’s future well-being at stake. It seems true in this case that the best choice may not necessarily be the easiest one.

In the end, how you raise your children is your own choice. The technique you adopt to guide your kids through their development will depend on what you believe is best. But keep in mind that the way you treat your children will affect the way they view themselves and the way they act in the future. You alone have the power to make your children feel GiftED!

As always, we love your comments!

The GiftED Team

Studies mentioned in this article:

Assor, A., Roth, G., &Deci, E.L. (2004). The emotional costs of parents’ conditional regard: A self-determination theory analysis. Journal of Personality, 72(1), 47-88. Retrieved from: http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.0022-3506.2004.00256.x/full.

Kollat, S.H., (2007). The role of conditional parental regard and excessively contingent self-esteem in children’s peer relationships.Retrieved from:  http://books.google.co.in/books/about/The_role_of_conditional_parental_regard.html?id=bQqO9CPyyVwC&redir_esc=y.

Trinkner, R., Cohn, E.S., Rebellon, C.J., & Van Gundy, K. (2011). Don’t trust anyone over 30: Parental legitimacy as a mediator between parenting style and changes in delinquent behavior over time. Journal of Adolescence, 35(1), 119-132. Retrieved from: http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0140197111000443.

What if more people loved?

With homes and jobs and kids to take care of, groceries to buy, cars to be serviced, pets to be fed and floors to be swept who has time or money or energy to give back in love and gratitude for all that we have? What difference can one person really make anyway?

How many of us have too much stuff and not enough time to really connect?  What if instead of an hour in front of the television at night people volunteered at a soup kitchen?  Or counseled troubled teens on a suicide hotline?

Once upon a time communities came together to build schools, host community dinners, build fences for one another and gave to their neighbors even when they had little for themselves.

How many of us are in a position to help but we just don’t? Why does it take a catastrophe for people to give back?

What can any one person really do?

My personal story…

After my divorce I was depressed and also very sick.  I had no idea what to do and so I had the thought that I would give back and travel to Africa to volunteer.  For so many years prior, all I had been concerned about was making money, buying the biggest house on the block and throwing big parties.  Then everything fell apart I had no idea what to do with my life.  I lost purpose.

Everyone thought I was crazy to travel to pick Kenya – a single 27 year old woman traveling alone.  But I needed something to change drastically.  All the success I had meant nothing anymore.  I was longing for something else…

After a successful flight to Nairobi and an 8 hour bus ride to a remote part of Kenya I was welcomed by a father, mother and their 4 children.  The family had turned their 5 acres into a school for children who had lost one or more parents to AIDS. This family barely had food for themselves but they somehow found money and pulled together people from the community to help build a school a huge, beautiful garden.

I thought I was going to help teach English at their school – but the kids were more interested in learning about me and how I lived.  They were so funny – they told me I dressed funny and that I was lazy to let a machine wash my clothes and dishes for me!  LOL  But I took their ribbing lightly because these were the same girls that had lost both parents to AIDS or that had been raped on their walk home from school or that were unlikely to get anything more than a 7^th grade education.  Despite everything, they still had laughter and jokes and gratitude and more smiles than I see in any school in the States.

Two weeks into my trip their school went on winter break so one of the girls told me about her mother who had opened her home to other widowed women in the community.  She invited me for a visit and that was one of the biggest and most life changing events in my life.

I arrived quite unsure of myself but was quickly welcomed with open arms and smiles.  All 11 women living there were HIV positive widows and were doing their best to make ends meet and save money with the sole purpose of being able to pay for their children’s education and books.

How I Became A Baker

I spent 2 weeks with these women and their children, and in the course of conversation one day they asked me what my favorite food was.  Cupcakes!  I responded without hesitation.  To my utter shock, not a person in the room knew what a cupcake was!  I spent at least 10 minutes describing in detail the attributes of a perfect cupcake and how to make homemade icing and that there is nothing better than a butter pound cake with chocolate frosting!

In the end I felt my words could not do justice to the true delight of a cupcake – so the next day I took a bus into town (really a van with open sides with women squished into every conceivable space, live chickens under the seats and men hanging out windows and onto the bumper!) and bought a stove, the biggest bag of flour and sugar I could find and cartons of eggs.  It was tricky getting the stove back, but I managed with some help from my new friends – and when I arrived to the women’s compound they were in utter shock :D  Speechless for the 1^st time since I met them!

I had my mom send me recipes for every cake flavor she could find and over the next 2 weeks we baked every cupcake under the sun!  If you ever want to feel good about yourself then introduce someone to a cupcake for the 1^st time!

Luckily a presidential election was around the corner so we decided to take hundreds of cupcakes and give them out at the Presidential Rallies.  By the time I left Kenya, that women’s group had orders for cakes and cupcakes spanning over the next 3 months!  They were a full-fledged bakery (and my parting gift to them – a cow for milk).

Learning the Meaning of Unconditional Love

I spent less than $500 helping them set up their bakery, and when I tell that story and many people say how brave or compassionate or giving I was.  The problem is they have it all backwards. I didn’t understand compassion until I saw the way the women cared for each other and the people in their community.  I didn’t understand sacrifice until I watched them scrape and save to give their children a better life.  I didn’t understand bravery until I heard the story of the girls that walk home together in groups to make protect each other from drunken men in the fields.

I didn’t really understand Love until my last day when the women’s parting gift to me was a party with song and dance and hugs and food.  When they hugged me it was with their whole heart, they meant it, it was not just an act.  Love poured off them.  And I realized I had gone there to help them – but in the end they gave me something I was never expecting.  Love, with no strings attached.  Laughter just for the sake of being happy.  Gratitude for sharing my knowledge with them. Those 11 women and their daughters stared an inner healing within me that I sorely needed.  And they planted a seed of courage in me that I still carry with me to this day.

There is nothing that can’t be done.

I sometimes wonder if anything I do is making a difference.  Are parents hearing our message?  Are we really making children’s lives better?  Then I log in and read your comments and the testimonials that we get emailed and I think back to my time in Africa.  They are a very important part of why I started GiftED, they taught me more about the beauty of life in 2 weeks than I had learned all the years prior.  There is something to be said for loving just to love. For giving just to give.  For just caring about someone that can do nothing for you in return.

I hope that all of you reading this get the chance to one day to be on both the giving and receiving end of what I experienced in those 2 weeks.  That you too get to find and live out your passion and bring more love into the world.

Melissa

Some days I look at my children in awe that something so amazing came from me … that I was gifted to receive two beings who bring so much happiness and joy to my life.

Then there are those days when I wonder, “Why again is it illegal to lock your children in a closet?” ;)

All joking aside … what is it that makes some aspects of parenting so joyful and other aspects so painful?

I figured out the answer to this question a few days ago when I was going through a course called “Natural Confidence.”  My New Year’s Resolution is to bring as much joy to children’s life as possible – but in order to do that I know I have to move through some of my personal blocks.   As I worked through “Natural Confidence” I realized that my parenting—just like all other aspects of my life (career, relationships, and finances)—is controlled by unconscious beliefs. In fact, our beliefs about ourselves (such as, I’m not good enough), about people (people can’t be trusted), and life (life is difficult) determine most of our moment-to-moment thoughts, actions and feelings.

Maddy, Sydney and Me :)

As a confident, self-reliant single mom I usually have everything under control, but there are some negative patterns that keep popping up in my life and my parenting, which is why I started the “Natural Confidence” course in the first place.  I realized less than an hour into it that I held several beliefs that were the cause of overreacting to things that my daughters did.

If I was having a bad day, I had no patience with my children.  But if I was in a good mood, I had the patience of a saint.  I know it wasn’t fair to my kids to treat them differently depending on how stressful my day was—not depending on what their behavior was—but I did it anyway!

Luckily as a result of eliminating several beliefs on the “Natural Confidence” program, I have been able to stop this and several other negative behavior patterns. That’s why I had to write about it!  If you have been on my site for a while you know that I rarely blog about other people’s products.  But this time I felt moved to make an exception.

Shelly Lefkoe has been contributing to GiftED for two years with her popular course, “Parenting the Lefkoe Way.”  Recently I was talking to her about some of the negative patterns in my life and she assured me that I could resolve them once and for all if I got rid of the underlying beliefs that are causing them.

Because I love her parenting work so much, I decided to try the product she and her husband created, called “Natural Confidence.”  It is a course that helps people permanently eliminate the most common limiting beliefs that lead to some of the most upsetting problems people have everyday, such as worrying about what others think of you, procrastination, a lack of confidence, and stress.

The Lefkoe’s belief-elimination process is one of those things that is better experienced than explained! So Shelly and Morty set up a web page where you can eliminate one of your own limiting beliefs.  There is no cost and it can be done on your lunch hour – that way you can experience first hand what I am talking about.

When one of your own limiting beliefs disappears, you will experience that beliefs really can be eliminated for good.  And when you eliminate all the beliefs that cause a specific problem, the problem disappears for good also.

www.thelefkoeway.com/belief

Try it and then let me know how it works for you!

Thanks for reading and Happy New Year!

Melissa